Where did all these weeds come from?

Where did all these weeds come from? It is much like noticing you have a tire that is low on air thinking I will check it tomorrow. Only to find out the next morning you then have a flat tire. It seems that we are unwilling to look closely at our lives only when they are producing things we don't want and then we ask why did this happen? When I stop for a moment and think about it I know that if I want carrots I need to plant carrots. I can hope they will magically appear, yet if I really want carrots I need to be responsible and plant them, love them, nurture them, and enjoy them. Look at your garden today put your gardening gloves on and invest in you.  

Day 39: Flower Garden, take some time today to examine the five people that you're spending the most time with and ask yourself this question: "Are they living the lives that I want to live?" If not perhaps, it's time for some weeding.

The first time that I heard of this I thought I can't weed my friends. That is so unloving and unkind. The more I looked at nature the more I realized that this is not only necessary if I was flowers to grow it is also necessary if I want to grow as well. It can be quite easy to live in the status quod not moving forward, and not moving back. The word I use with my clients is "stuck." When I stop and look at it from a gardening perspective verses friendship I get it.

One of the things that I remember today that I was unwilling to know back then was that in order for someone to change they have to want to. It can be really easy to live the life of a martyr as well where we hang out with others in order to help them, or save them from themselves. No one needs to be saved, and no one needs to be fixed. We are all on a path of self discovery and we are doing the best we can at this given moment.

Ego likes living in the status quod because it is really easy to judge others and feel superior or inadequate. Anytime we start to value ourselves on a better/worse standpoint we can be assured we are living in ego at that moment. When we can step back and ask ourselves if we are living the lives we want to live? Then base our weeding on that decision rather than "value" we find that not only do our gardens transform our lives do as well.

Weeding someone from our lives doesn't mean that we are discarding them it simply means we recognize that we are on different paths at the moment and we support and love them enough to allow them to follow the path they are on. It also allows us to move from the status quo into responsibility for who and what we want out of live.

I look at like this. If I had a garden and it was the only means of food that I had to eat I would do everything in my power to nurture it and love it to fulfillment. My wellbeing is dependent on how well I garden. Yet in life we allow attachments to govern how we garden our lives. This is your life and you are responsible for what is growing in your garden. Take some time today and look at what you are growing in your garden and go from there.

I love you,

Rev Allen