Death, what are my feelings about it?

Today as a "Life Coach" I am often asked the question what happens when we die? How can I become less afraid of dying? How do I deal with the death of someone I love? There really is no one answer to any of these questions. Grief is something that we have to journey through one step at a time. For some it requires quiet time, for others very loud music and dancing. When my mother's father passed away, I felt the need to rototill the yard and create a new and beautiful garden. He was a farmer and it was what felt right to me. The key is to honor the self. Take the time you need. It is a process. Only you know when you are complete. Remember that you are supported by the universe in your journey.  

Day 59: Death, What is my emotions around the ending of a tree's life, and the transformation process that happens naturally when it falls in the woods?

On one of our many nature walks my beloved planed and excursion that impacted me most profoundly. I was in the mist of writing "Season of Change" and here I was surrounded by nature in all of it glory. The thing that impacted my life the most that day was seeing how the fallen trees were the begging of new life. That as the tree started it natural break down, and return to the earth a miracle was happening in this transformative process. New life was beginning. 

This reminded me of a quote I had heard many times before. "When things appear that they are falling apart they are actually falling into place." Here before my eyes was the completion of one form of life and the beginning of another. How awesome was that? I love how nature in all of it wisdom looks at death, transition, or transformation. Take the life of an amazing tree, who lives a wonderfully long and full life. When that part of its journey is complete it releases it roots, or hold in the earth, and falls to the ground. At that moment, the miracle of transformation is already in process. As it begins to break down, or as I like to look at it transform into its next adventure. When we look at it from a human, or emotional standpoint we see the ending of an amazing life. Yet from the perspective of the tree, it is not an end yet, a rebirth or new beginning. 

Today I know that is the same is true for you and I. As I shared in today's reading as a youth I worked in the funeral industry. During that period of my life my best friend, my Pa-Pa transitioned. He was, and is my hero. He had such compassion, love, and would sit and talk with anyone and they would leave feeling transformed. It was his mission in life to leave things better than he found them. He always made time for others and he listened with his heart, and only responded when he felt that what he had to say was appropriate. It was deeply profound to have this man in my life. I remember standing next to him lying in the casket. I knew the man that I loved was no longer there. He was now living within my heart, life, and would forever be a part of me. I had no reason to cry. I knew in my soul that this was not goodbye. It was in fact hello on another level. 

Today some 36 years later I feel him in my life at a deeply level than ever before. Today I know that I am the miracle of life that began with his life. That makes me feel so very happy, and blessed. I love you! Rev Allen